The Sex Addict: Finding Love in the Arms of a Closet Addict
Some people have insatiable appetites when it comes to sex. This can be fun in the beginning of a relationship, however, with time, this can become worrisome. Do we have people addicted to sex? Yes! Do they always own up to it? No! Some don’t even realize that what they have is an addiction. They are so used to taking out their frustrations, anger, distress, guilt and even shame through different sexual acts/behavior or through compulsive sex.
No two people in a relationship have the same sex drive. Some can do with less (waaay less sex – which doesn’t make you frigid), while others can handle a lot more (which doesn’t make you a freak). Having differing sexual interests to your partner doesn’t make you less compatible. All it means is that you’ll need to work a little harder, or slow things down a notch so that both can have a mutually satisfying relationship.
The incessant need for mindless sex has ruined numerous relationships and driven others still to deterioration. Some people cover up for their addiction by having numerous personalities; they become serial cheaters, liars and pretenders while trying to save face. Rather than break up their current relationship to understand their true needs or own up to their issues in order to get help, they prefer to string people along and eventually break their hearts when the addiction comes to light or the deception becomes too much to bear.
Don’t be that guy or gal who finds it difficult to communicate with their significant other. Be honest enough to discuss your feelings, likes, dislikes, needs with each other. The worse that can happen is that they’ll break things up. But even that is a lot better than deceiving someone for months or even years on end before dropping that shit on them (or they eventually realize the truth).
Like every other addiction out there, there is help available for sex addicts. The first step of gaining or experiencing a recovery is to admit your addiction and identify your triggers. Sexual addiction sometimes covers up an underlying problem that may go deeper than wanting to get lost in sex. It may even be a deeper sign of wanting to feel affection and love. The bottom line is that when one partner is an addict the relationship tends to suffer.
You’re not made of stone, and even people who’ve sworn to be celibate struggle with the primal need to mate; what you shouldn’t be doing is taking your frustrations out on faceless people, using their bodies as a means for your instant gratification. If your addiction is pushes you into the arms of random strangers on the regular, then you need to seek help. Not only are you leaving yourself open to disease and infections, but you’re no closer to getting the fulfilment you crave – even in the arms of numerous men and women, and you’re leaving a trail of mistrust and heartache everywhere you go. Know the difference between healthy and unhealthy sexual relationship and seek help if your addiction or behavior is getting out of hand. You and your partner would be better off for it.
