A penny pinching scrooge is wired differently, so, it is important to properly identify obstacles on your path to happy-ever-after, that way, you’re not left holding the short end of the stick. It can be relatively easy or nightmarish to find a significant other, but irrespective of how you feel, try not to get blind-sided or carried away with emotions that you refuse to see their true nature right off the bat.
Have you ever had the misfortune of being with someone who loves to receive gifts yet hates to reciprocate? Or the type who requests all his gifts back when upset? Well, been there, done that, and it sure ain’t pretty.
It doesn’t matter whether it’s your birthday, Valentines, Christmas or some significant holiday, they never give or always have an excuse backing their inability to spend.
They are either perpetually broke; have some issues with their account or credit card; or expecting some cash inflow… the excuses vary but the end result remains the same – they do not give!
Well tough f-ing shit! Why would anyone want to remain with someone who’s a stingy scrooge? If you want the truth and not some fake validation, then you’ve got to open your eyes.
If you continue as is, you’ll continue picking up tabs, paying for the mortgage, utility bills, everything – you’ll continue like a single person while in a relationship. You need to pull on the brakes and identify what’s right in front of you.
Tokens have been used from time immemorial to show appreciation or love so it’s not a new trend. We’re not asking you to go digging for gold or some rare gem at the bottom of the ocean to show your love; it’s the little things that count.
If you have a partner that’s realistic and cares about you, why wouldn’t you reciprocate? Your gifts are not needed to prove your love, but come on! It wouldn’t hurt to be thoughtful once in a while. If we can’t take care of each other, what’s the point of being together? It’s of no use.
Indeed, it might cost you a little but it doesn’t always have to. When some people get around to giving, they make sure you never forget it. Some go as far as rubbing their generosity in your face, expecting you to show gratitude every day for that gift – not realizing that it cheapens the gift in our eyes.
Well, not to rain on your parade, but you need to stop going through the motions of a relationship, when things are going wrong. Be bold enough to discuss issues that are difficult to endure. Giving is a big deal in relationships and life in general, and not something to be ignored or swept under the rug.
Pretending it’s not an issue wouldn’t bring about change, or make the problem go away. You need to speak up and hope for the best.
Be kind, show your love!